The Baby Stash

When I was pregnant with my first child, one of my girlfriends decided that her family was finished and it was time to get rid of all her baby things. Before I knew it I had plastic tubs filled with more baby stuff than I knew what to do with. There were clothes, wraps, cloth nappies, bottle sterilisers, food warmers, a bath, and a few things that I still haven’t discovered the purpose of. It wasn’t a complete set because she had already given away a few items, but in a single afternoon we had almost everything that we needed to be prepared to welcome our baby to the outside world.

Going through the boxes was thrilling. As I washed and sorted everything, I satisfied almost all of my nesting drive. I added a few items along the way from second hand markets and the occasional discount rack at the shops, but we saved a small fortune. Then our daughter was with us and suddenly we were receiving more second hand things from friends who no longer needed them.

By the end of the first year I had boxes and boxes of things that our daughter no longer fit into or needed. We didn’t want to get rid of anything, because we were planning a second baby, but it was taking up an enormous amount of storage space. Then someone we knew announced that she was pregnant. We asked if she would be interested in borrowing any of our stuff, and she said that she was. Suddenly we’d helped someone avoid quite a few small expenses and our baby clothes were being worn instead of clogging up the shed.

Tubs of baby clothes
Half of the stash

A few weeks before her baby was born, someone else that we knew announced that she was pregnant. This friend was also interested in borrowing the stash, as it had come to be called. There were six months between the births, which was more than enough time for clothes to be grown out of, washed and put back into the tubs. After picking up the stash from the first friend I dropped it with the second friend, so it didn’t even make it back to our house in between.

By the time we needed the stash back for our second baby it had clothed two other babies. Once I made a few small repairs everything was in good enough condition to be used, and a few new items had been added. Going through it was exciting with the blend of memories and discoveries.

Our second daughter barely had time to grow out of the clothes before they were off again to the next baby. This time I won’t even have to transfer the stash between mothers, because the mother who has them knows the mother who needs them next, so they’ll sort that out between themselves. It has now grown so much that it includes bassinets, prams and toys.

Reusing and sharing the things in the stash has helped us to collectively reduce our environmental impact, because instead of having five sets of things between this group of families, we’ve only had one. Some of those clothes and bottles will have been used by nine babies by the time they come back to me next. Instead of transporting a new item from a factory in the northern hemisphere, we’re transporting a used item from the next suburb. Best of all, seeing a friend’s baby in something that your baby wore not long ago really brings on warm fuzzy feelings.

If you’re playing along at home…

…and you have a lot of clothes in storage, that you aren’t ready to get rid of yet, do you have someone you could lend them to or swap with? Have you done something like this with your friends? Please leave a comment below telling us what you shared and how it went.

The Toy Library

If you have young children, then you know that certain areas of a shopping centre are guaranteed to cause financial disaster and ruin for your family. Retailers aren’t stupid, and they know how to arrange a wall of monster trucks and Frozen merchandise for maximum pester power. Kids aren’t stupid, and they know how to say “Mum, Mum, Mum, Mum, Mum” until Mum snaps and buys yet another God forsaken My Little Pony figurine.

According to an article on Kidspot, you don’t need to feel alone if this happens to you, because some Australian families can apparently “save $1,000 a month if they stop buying unnecessary toys for their children”. I copied and pasted that because I was having a bit of trouble typing in that number. The article goes on to say that some families are spending as much as $5,000 a month on toys. To help you with the maths, that is a cool $60,000* per year.

I don’t personally know any families who have $60,000 to spend on toys – mostly because I don’t know that many families who have $60,000 available for anything after tax, rent and food – but, regardless of the dollars, there are two main environmental problems with this rampant spending:

  1. How much damage is caused creating these toys?
  2. What happens with these toys when the kids have stopped playing with them?

Manufacturing toys doesn’t come cheaply for the environment. The materials used to create the toy need to be grown or mined, and energy is used in those processes. Then the raw materials are transported to the factory, which uses more energy, before the manufacturing and packaging process begins. Waste products need to be disposed of somehow and then the toys need to be transported to the shop where you buy them. Your kid plays with the toy for a few hours, possibly a week or two if you’re lucky, and then the toy sits around the house before you eventually get rid of it.

We’ve almost completely stopped buying toys for our children during the year and instead we’ve bought a membership to the local toy library. It costs $70 for an annual membership – that’s less than the price of a Cook ‘N’ Grow BBQ Grill by Little Tikes, which you can borrow for up to two weeks. Our girls borrow that particular toy two or three times a year, play with it for three days, and then we take it back for another child to play with. They have over 12,000 toys available, and for an additional fee (I think it was $15) you can borrow a party pack.

I no longer dread going past a display of toys in a shopping centre now. If my oldest daughter sees something that she would like to play with, I suggest that she sees if one is available from the toy library. She’s very happy with that answer because I’m not telling her that she can’t play with the toy, and I’m very happy because I haven’t been stung $20 for something that will probably sit on our shelf at home. We aren’t adding packaging to landfill, the girls play with a much broader range of toys than I could ever afford to buy, and we don’t have nearly as much stuff that we have to find somewhere to store.

If you’re playing along at home…

…is there a toy library in your local area that you could join? The people who run our library were happy to let us look at the toys on offer before we made the decision to sign up. If you live in a different area, please share a link in the comments to your local toy library for others who live near you.


*If you happen to have a spare $60,000 lying around that you’re blowing on toys, feel free to give it to me and I’ll happily spend that money on something useful. There’s a set of solar panels that I’ve got my eye on, and I’m even happy to use that money to install them on your roof.